Entries by eveminax

Peg Your Heart Out and Feel it Too!

Walking into the lobby of Catalystcon West 2014, I wondered what my purpose was being there. Sure, I had a panel wherein we would discuss the complications around private vs public in the sex lives of industry people, but surely there was more. Within a half an hour of being in the lobby, I was […]

Some Thoughts on Dominance and Submission

As a devoted Dominatrix, I think about and practice Dominant/submissive relationships. The conflux of dominance and submission is ambiguous at best: how about control and surrender? Indeed, all relationships involve power exchange, usually implicit or ignored.  D/s relationships represent power exchange with a twist: explicitness. They are intentional in that they acknowledge the intrinsic elements […]

The Three Cs of Dominance and Submission: Some Thoughts on the Ds of BDSM

Some Thoughts on Dominance and submission: BDSM in Relationship Like many turns of phrase, the term Dominance/submission is ambiguous at best. All relationships involve power exchange.  D/s represents relationships with a twist. They are service driven. They are intentional. They acknowledge the intrinsic elements of power dynamics of an established rapport with another. They develop […]

Sexual Knowledge is Sexual Power

Hello Dear and Lovely Erotic Explorers, Happy International Women’s Day! As you may know we are living in some pretty surreal times and that personal power is constantly being redistributed. Sometimes we actually feel quite powerless and vulnerable, but the more we learn, the more we self empower. The act of self empowerment can wash […]

No Pain No Gain: Distinguishing Erotic and Non Erotic Pain

Today I went to see my Physical Therapist for a Rotator Cuff injury rehab session. After we spent some time getting acquainted and starting the exercises, he asked me “what are your thoughts on pain?” and well, you know me, I just had to respond with, “oh, I have LOTS of thoughts on pain! First […]

Fairy Tales Can Come True

This piece was written a couple of years ago, and I have had the fortune to continue this work. So grateful. May it bring you a piece of hope and enlightenment.   Fairy Tales Can Come True! Imagine you have a secret, a secret of a sexual nature….it might not be a “big” secret. Perhaps […]

Managing Pyschic Waste in the New Year

Previously published in Spirit of Desire edited by Lee Harrington. Managing Psychic Waste: Transcendence Through Humiliation You say I hold the key and perhaps I do. I hang people for a living. Listening to their stories of respectability and convention. I cleanse their darkest psyches and make them feel whole again. I help them orgasm […]