BDSM and Kink education blog by Mistress Eve Minax

What Does a Dominatrix Look Like?

A lot of people are talking about the Netflix show about a young Dominatrix. So far, I’d say it’s the equivalent of a waitress putting herself through school being called a professional restaurateur. She’s no pro, perhaps she will become one. We’ll see. In the meantime, here’s a little revision on a piece I wrote back in 2010 on the beauty and diversity of the Dominatrix.

 

Bear in mind, most Dominatrices use the pronoun “she” no matter the gender identity and some of use have been using Masculine pronouns in scenes for years…more on that later.

 

“Come to the edge, he said. They said: We are afraid. Come to the edge, he said. They came. He pushed them and they flew.” 

Guillaume Apollinaire

One of my Sisyphean challenges in life is to demystify the myth of the Dominatrix – to fill out the missing gaps and one-dimensional characteristics that permeate our culture. The unique histories of Dominatrices inform their brave work and pioneering spirit. If you could look closely, (where are the stats anyway?), you would see an illustrious array of talent, skills, philosophies, and courage.

 

Like many other professionals I know, I too, have a unique history. Raised urban poor, in my family I went on to obtain the first High School degree, and eventually a Master’s degree. Literary and theatrical studies combined with extensive pedagogical experience continue to inform my work as a BDSM lecturer, educator, and writer. Years before I would begin to fully understand my own leanings towards Female Domination and BDSM practices, I wrote my graduate thesis on “Subversive Practices in Feminist Performance Art”. Further, like many of my colleagues, I may not fit the stereotype of the Hollywood-produced leather cat suit clad man-eating vixen, but I have practiced the art of Domination with intention and commitment for many years.

 

The media stereotype of the Dominatrix is rather one-dimensional. The infiltration of SM culture into mainstream society leans primarily towards the fetishistic and aesthetic aspects of BDSM culture, avoiding any deeper underlying issues to the person and her work. In “real” life, Dominatrices are generally stunning; though not always mainstream beauties. We often stand out in a crowd because we tend to be individualistic, living life to the fullest and more often than not standing out as a leader – the one to take control in any number of ways. 

 

I’d love to see more research done that would illuminate the complexity of a profession that has been misrepresented and misunderstood by sociaty. Like within most professions, a spectrum of representation exists, eg, not all lawyers are bad and not all police officers are good. The Dominatrix also has many layers to her persona, and I have been pondering the many variations exist for some time. 

 

Here is a partial list of some of the different types of Dominatrices, with basic names that I came up with off the top of my head, many of which can overlap with each other, and others that never mix.
 
The Domestic Disciplinarian: Could be your Aunty or Woman next door, until she puts you over her knee.
The Medical Specialist: Plays Doctor or Nurse to perfection.
The Rubber Mistress: Has all the rubber clothes and gear you could possible imagine.
The Goddess: Demands worship.
The Fetishist: Fetish is her motivator.
The Bondage Mistress/Top: Loves rope and knows how to use it.
The Whip Mistress: Whip wielding from single tail to cat o’ nine.
The Predator: Hunts you down and take you down.
The Philosopher: Keeps you in line with her words and ethics.
The Classic: Domestic Disciplinarian, Whip Wielder, Bondage Expert and more! The General Practitioner, (also with specialties) of Dominatrices.
The Good Girl Gone Bad: Looks angelic or like the girl next door.
The Seductress: Casts her spell to entice you.
The Counselor/Guide: Takes you where you need to go. 
The Emasculator: Wants your balls, you don’t need them.

 

Of course, this list is not exhaustive and as I began noting all the variations I realized that not only are there so many types, but that many of us embody any number of Strong Female Authoritarian Archetypes within our Dominatrix Personas which we invoke when appropriate to the scene: Queen, Priestess, Warrior, and Mother to name a few. Just because a Dominatrix self-presents in one archetypal role does not mean she cannot employ another type when necessary however, the Bondage Mistress can care for her bound subject in a very Maternal or Motherly way and once the Predator has captured her prey, she can employ the Goddess to finalize her objectives. Conversely, it would be quite useless for the Whip Mistress to whip the Domestic Discipline client as a Medical Specialist while wearing a black rubber cat suit. Not only do the genres not go together, but the Domestic Discipline aficionado’s needs will not be met and no catharsis would ensue leaving the session flat and ineffectual. 

 

I have often said that Dominatrices are Psychic Waste Managers, encouraging people to excavate parts of themselves that society deeply discourages: the primal sexual selves. If the libido is not allowed to emerge in a positive creative way, it can be destructive. I also say that the sacred and lascivious are flip sides of the same coin. Knowing who you are as a Dominatrix and how to go about employing different aspects of your self in the work helps achieve therapeutic results with your clientele. There is an old adage to the profession, we may not be therapists, but the work is therapeutic. Knowing oneself in Domination is particularly crucial because of the nature of psycho-sexual work. Libidinal drives inform our every movement, hence the work itself elicits the question of what drives us sexually. Personally, although I love whipping, I do not consider myself a whip Mistress. When I see my esteemed Whip Mistress colleagues doing the dance of fire and precision, I am truly humbled by their abilities. Would I desire to be them? Yes, but honestly, I must honor my primary arousal in order to be a better Dominant. I suppose I am an Archeologist of BDSM. I love exploring and excavating psycho-sexual terrain, and the whips and other accoutrements are simply tools that help me unearth buried artifacts.

 

In examining difference, we must also examine similarity. We Dominatrices all have sadistic streaks, or at the very least enjoy giving pleasure – and if a masochist seeks pain for their pleasure, we are happy to accommodate. We also, ideally, have hard skills in Domination, be they rope rigging, electro-play, or whip wielding.  Often motivated by deep fetishistic desires, we all care about our clientele in a professional fashion. Dominatrices have many similarities but perhaps only one commonality: whatever the archetype or role that we play, we need to push our subjects and ourselves a little deeper into the dark so that we all may extend our psychosexual travels a little further, returning each time with a bit more knowledge and a lot more savvy. 
 
For more information about how to become a Dominatrix or Bondassage Practitoner, email me

Five Sexy Kinky Gift Ideas!

Who doesn’t love a sexy gift? Whatever the reason, be it holiday, birthday, or just because, sexy gifts can bring laughter, joy, pleasure, intimacy, knowledge and power. And what’s more sexy than power? Ideas!

People often ask me what my favorite sexy gifts are,-  and I have many many options at my disposal. As I was pulling together my kinky gift list for a friend this year, I realized it has become much more comprehensive over time From a range of prices to areas of interest, (within sexy), there are lost of options. Keep this list handy, feel free to share. I trust you’ll find the appropriate gift for your loved one(s).

Oh, and by the way, some of these links will pay me back, so you’ll be gifting me as well!

1. Gift Books and Games

Sex Cards

It is possible to talk about sex the way foodies talk about food, with great detail and delight? Anyone can learn to be more comfortable on this terrain, it just takes practice. Part of the mission for these cards is to provide a fun way to talk about sex, not only between lovers, but between friends and groups of friends too. We are sexual beings all the time, whether or not we have a partner(s) at any given time. Have fun and be curious!

https://www.sexquestioncards.com/?fbclid=IwAR23gz1H9DncBK6CueDDwjBoLWFAjdpAFcgD6ocrRPtIz-hd-z9-B6-vr0s

 

Bondassage Book

Jaeleen Bennis created this sexy sequence for lovers and I helped her write the book. In it you’ll learn basic massage and bondage techniques, with tons of information on sensory play. There are lots of practice exercises also!

2. Gift Toys

Injoyus

My favorite strap-on “less” toy. So comfy! You attach one of the insertables in you and the more dildo shaped piece acts for the receiver’s pleasure. In a word, once in place, the wearer/giver can squat, walk, lie, even dance and the Injoyus will not fall out. Honestly, having mutual sexual pleasure with your partner from the inside out is quite like nothing else available to us on earth, only fantasies! https://newlovecreations.com/

I love mine so much I’ve named her Francis. Yep, our relationship is that special, and if you would like to own one go HERE and be sure to put in EVE1 for 10% off.  It’s 100 per cent fully refundable too. Here’s to a world where the Injoyus becomes a widely used pleasure device within the expansive world of sex and exploration!

For a more in depth review, go here…

 

If you want to create a combo pleasure gift of two pieces, here are two of my favorites:

The Betty Dodson Vaginal Barbell combined with the Hitachi Magic Wand https://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/GV13516/magic-wand/magic-wand-rechargeable are the BEST!

Although the barbell says “vaginal”, it actually works amazingly well on the prostate and anally for women also. Easy to clean, sterilizable, lasts for life, it’s worth every cent and then some too.
Pair it with the Hitachi Magic Wand for buzz, buzz and you’re set for life for around $200!

OR if you are maybe a bit more greedy, my absolute favorite girthy and lengthy toy is the

Eleven  made by N’Joy Toys

Eleven inches long and weighing over just over 2lbs….you’ll feel it and it doubles as a workout toy!

https://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/1-3-BF-0801/njoy/eleven-stainless-steel-dildo-?lref=Srch|njoy%2Beleven|a|1|c|0|-relevance|search_page|0

My other favorite insertable The Ass Hammer is just as versatile as the Eleven, but oh, so much lighter in weight. Once in, it stays in beautifully!

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/ass-hammer-large-stainless-steel/?acc=eveminax

3. Choose Your Own Gift! Perhaps my suggestions are not quite what you’re looking for? Then go to one of these sites for your pleasure…gift cards available also:)

toys, toys, and lingerie!

Good Vibrations  http://www.goodvibes.com/main.jhtml?kbid=214489

Gears, Toys, Latex, more…

Stockroom http://www.stockroom.com/home.aspx?ref=1885813

Gears, Toys, Furniture, more…

Mr S https://www.mr-s-leather.com/?acc=eveminax

 

4. Porn Gifts

Maybe a little streaming time for you and/or your partner?

I’ve been making my own videos for years, Mistress Minax FemDomme porn delights!

http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/15436

Or you may not know I did a great series with Pink and White Productions?

http://www.pinklabel.tv/on-demand/studio/point-of-contact-minax/?affiliate=2452008

Perhaps rubber and crossdressing works for you? Works for me! I love the shoots I’ve done with Alice In Bondageland.  You will too!

http://www.aliceinbondageland.com/?ref=2461044

5. Educational Gifts

Streaming:

Education you say? Learn from Me and Many Many Others anytime anywhere!

Kink Academy

http://refer.ccbill.com/cgi-bin/clicks.cgi?CA=942299-0000&PA=2460509&HTML=http://www.kinkacademy.com/

Study with Me Live in the Flesh!

One on one for Dominatrix Training

http://www.mistressminax.com/dominatrix-training/

Bondassage Training

http://www.mistressminax.com/bondassage-training/ Training

Group Study

Want to Become a More Confident Skillful Dominant? Or Maybe You and/or Your Partner Want More Depth to Their Dominance? Erotic Dominance Intensive with Me and Cléo Dubois, sixteen years and counting. Next one in February but selling out. Enroll now!

  http://www.sm-arts.com

Whatever your propensities, any of the above are sure to please. I hope these options have opened your mind and piqued your  curiosity!

 

Want To Learn To Be A Dominatrix?

I love teaching, especially the up and coming Dominatrix. Whether you come from such fields of sex works as Full Body Sensual Massage, Bondage Modeling, Exotic Dancing/Stripping, Escort, GFE, you get the value of the work.

Do you need to deepen and expand your skills, (energy, corporal, client relations, etc), gain more camaraderie, (peers and like minded colleagues from all over the world), & develop better business practices (legalities, business licensing, marketing) etc?

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Peg Your Heart Out and Feel it Too!

Walking into the lobby of Catalystcon West 2014, I wondered what my purpose was being there. Sure, I had a panel wherein we would discuss the complications around private vs public in the sex lives of industry people, but surely there was more. Within a half an hour of being in the lobby, I was introduced to the Injoyus, an incredible harnessless pegging device. As a 20 plus year player of strap on, pegging, harness and dildo play, I had never found an “ultimate solution”.
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How Have Sexual Fetishes Changed Over Time?

I was recently asked this question and here’s the synopsis of my take…happy to have your input!

First of all, it is important to establish what one means by “fetish”. Originally, 17c, a fetish/fetiche was an amulet or charm that bore the wearer some form of luck, or at least warded off evil spirits. At the turn of the 20th c and the advent of psychology, notably Freud, fetish, as sexual fetish, became known as an object required to create sexual gratification, ie, shoe, boot, fur, etc. Around the same time, Sado-Masochism also evolved as a term (based on the writings of the Marquis de Sade and Sacher Von Masoch), defined as sexual gratification through corporal punishment (flogging, spanking, etc) or erotic humiliation, (embarrassment, objectification, degradation). As of late, say the past 15 to 20 years, the term fetish is most often used as a “turn on”. Such as, “I have a spanking fetish”, or “I have a rubber fetish”. The current speaker rarely requires the object or activity to achieve orgasm, but does find it more pleasurable with said piece.
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No Pain, No Gain? Understanding Erotic and Non-Erotic Pain

Today I went to see my Physical Therapist for a Rotator Cuff injury rehab session. After we spent some time getting acquainted and starting the exercises, he asked me “what are your thoughts on pain?” and well, you know me, I just had to respond with, “oh, I have LOTS of thoughts on pain! First I think there’s a strong mind body connection and that pain can teach us lot about how we accept extreme sensation. I think that certain types of extreme sensation, aka pain, [notice how I started schooling the PT on my lingo?], can announce danger but also teach us how to relax around the sensation to accept the circumstance. I personally notice that as a strong self sufficient woman who starting working at the age of 14 and does not have a well resourced family or partner to fall back on, I start to feel urgency and impatience around healing as I psychologically fear I will never be able to work again, make money, or take care of myself. It’s brutal and self defeating, and yet it’s part of the process of “sitting with the pain”. I have so much more to say, oh wait, I’m sorry, is that too much?” He paused for a moment, concentrating on stretching my wrist, and then looked at me and smiled saying, “um, most people just say how they don’t like pain. Clearly you’ve thought about this”.   Read more

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Fairy Tales Can Come True

This piece was written a couple of years ago, and I have had the fortune to continue this work. So grateful. May it bring you a piece of hope and enlightenment.

 

Fairy Tales Can Come True!

Imagine you have a secret, a secret of a sexual nature….it might not be a “big” secret. Perhaps you share it with a few close friends, maybe you’ve even facebooked or tweeted about it, or simply alluded to it in your posts. Maybe you have only shared it with your partner, who, quite frankly doesn’t want to hear about it any more, if they ever did. Maybe you keep the secret to yourself, but you fantasize about it and any chance you get you look for it, on the web, or live.

What might that secret be?
What might it look like?
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Five Books for Kink/Poly Beginners

I was just responding to a follow up email from a wonderful couple who started working with me last week and I wanted to give them a few options on reading material for their newfound kink and potential polyamory. It seemed logical to share them with you also!

These five have ranked in my “go to” and return to books that discuss kink and/or polyamory.

~Come Hither

Brame

~Screw The Roses, Send Me the Thorns

Devon and Miller

~The Ethical Slut

Easton and Hardy

~ Consensual Sadomasochism

Henkin and Holiday

~Opening Up

Taormino

Although I LOVE all of them,  I would certainly appreciate having additional options for POC, People with Different Abilities, Senior/Mature sex especially in regards to Kink/BDSM.

What are your thoughts?

In Love and Kink,

Eve

Addendum: many folks have pointed out to me that The Bondassage book, written by me and Jaeleen Bennis is a great beginner tool to take it from sensual to kinky, and that I am remiss in not mentioning it. Call it my Midwest modesty, but it seemed to forward to put it in, apologies!

Professional Dominants (and others’) BDSM Resource List

In preparing for my presentation today“If I Knew Then What I Know Now:
50 Things Every Up and Coming Professional Should Know!” at DomConLA, I realized I have an INCREDIBLE amount of information and resources I have been compiling over the years! As it continued to grow, I realized some links were down and there are many more resources out there. So for now, I am going to compile this as a blog post and I ask for your help in making it more comprehensive. Also, although this compilation is primarily Professional related, I also want to create a more comprehensive directory for everyone. So, please read through, find some new ways of educating yourself around BDSM and Kink, and be sure to comment with more possibilities, (queers, furries, chastity folk etc – you know who you are!!!).

 

xo Eve
Professional Dominant and BDSM/Kink Education

In Person Live Training:

Me! I offer in person, long distance, individual and group classes
Eve Minax
Mistress Minax
Annual Professional Dominant Intensives/Erotic Dominance Intensive for Men and Women
Cleo Dubois Academy of SM-Arts
Rope Dojo and Forte Femme

Bondassage Professional Training Program

Tantric Based SM: Urban Tantra Professionals Training and Coaching

POC Specific:

Women of Color Sexual Health Network

POC BDSM info

Business Coaching

Conferences all over the US, but the “go to” for Professionals is DomCon LA and Atlanta

A few other favorite conferences, not necessarily for the professional:

A wonderful small gathering on the East Coast Camp Crucible
Portland Kinksters seem to “get it” KinkFest
One of the most revered of all BDSM conferences Thunder in the Mountains
Stellar conferences and classes all over the US Dark Odyssey

Online Training and Education

Kink Academy
Kink University

Professional Dominants Community Resources

The Scene: DomBoss

Max Fisch – The Hang

All Star Dommes

Fetlife (with groups for professionals)

Professional Dominants Marketing Resources

Backpage

Pandemos Mistress Directory

DDI (Domme Directory International) Magazine and Directory

Eros Guide

Other World Kingdom

Legal Resources and Activism

Recent legal article on California laws:

Actual California prostitution laws (dry):

SWOP (Sex Workers Outrech Project) USA:

Sex Workers Activists and Allies

Bound Not Gagged (blog covering legal, cultural and political issues around sex work):

Sex In The Public Square (pro- sex work, sex positive activism blog)

Desiree Alliance (Sex worker advocacy and support):

International focus on sex work and activism:

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Kink Aware Professionals: Resources of all sorts, primarily therapists

Triple x law

ACLU American Civil Liberties Union

Equipment/Toys/Gear

Stockroom Los Angeles Store and online

Mr. S Leather

Fort Troff – best toys and prices Online

 

Clothing

Beautiful Custom Corsetry, San Francisco

Superb Custom Corsetry Los Angeles, CA

Fun semi custom latex clothes, UK (online)

Lust Designs custom latex clothing SF, CA

Recommended Reading List

“How to” Books

The Bottoming Book or How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People.  Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995

The Bride Wore Black Leather … and he looked fabulous: an etiquette guide for the rest of us. Campbell, Andrew. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000.

A Charm School for Sissy Maids.  Lorelei, Mistress. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. Brame, Gloria G, Fireside, New York, NY 2000

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It & How to Do It Safely,  Henkin, William A. & Holiday, Sybil. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1996

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Easton, Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A., Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1997, reissue 2013

Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex: Make Over Your Love Life with One of the World’s Great Sex Experts. Sprinkle, Annie. Tarcher/Penguin, New York, NY 2005

Family Jewels: a guide to male genital play and torture.  Haberman, Hardy. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

Flogging.  Bean, Joseph W, Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000

Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins & Outs of Enema Play.  Strict, M. R, Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004

Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook.  Wiseman, Jay. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000

Juice: Electricity for Pleasure and Pain.  ‘Uncle Abdul’.  Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

KinkyCrafts: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/M Toys for the Kinky Handyperson. Green, Lady ed. with Easton, James. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

The Knot Book.  Budworth, Geoffrey. Sterling, New York, NY 1985

Leather and Latex Care.  Thibault, Kelly J.  Daedulus, San Francisco, CA 1996

Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player.  Bean, Joseph W. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1994

Look Into My Eyes: How to Use Hypnosis to Bring Out the Best in Your Sex Life.  Masters, Peter. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

On The Safe Edge: A Manual for SM Play.  Jacques, Trevor. WholeSM Publishing, Toronto 1993

Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun.  Warren, John. Diversified Services, Brighton, MA 1995

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: the Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism.  Miller, Philip & Devon, Molly. Mystic Rose Books, Fairfield, CT 1999

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.  Midori.  Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

The Topping Book or Getting Good at Being Bad.  Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A, Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995

The Toybag Guide to:
Canes and Caning.  Hardy, Janet W.
Clips and Clamps.  Rinella, Jack
Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies.  Wiseman, Jay
Foot and Shoe Worship.  Midori
Hot Wax and Temperature Play Spectrum
Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004
Trust: The Handbook, A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing.  Herrman, Bert. Alamo Square Press, San Francisco CA 1991

Training with Miss Abernathy: a workbook for erotic slaves and their owners.  Abernathy, Christina. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 1998

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.  Taormino, Tristan.  Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

Whips and Whipmaking. Morgan, David W. Cornell Maritime Press, Centreville, Maryland 1972, 2004

Woof! Perspectives Into the Erotic Care & Training of the Human Dog.  Daniels, Michael. A Boner Book, The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, NV 2003

Memoirs/Non-Fiction

Bizarre Sex and Other Crimes of Passion.  Tal, Stan ed. Masquerade Books, New York, NY 1998

A Defense of Masochism.  Phillips, Anita. Faber and Faber, London, UK 1998

Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex.  Gates, Katharine. Juno Books, New York, NY 2000

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission.  Brame, Gloria G. & William D. & Jacobs, Jon. Villard, New York, NY 1993

Dominatrix: A Memoir, The Making of Mistress Chloe.  Mansfield, Claire & Mendelssohn, John. Headline, London, UK 2002

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment.  Morin, Jack. HarperCollins, New York, NY 1996

Erotic Power: An Exploration of Dominance and Submission. Scott, Gini Graham, Citadel Press, Toronto, Ontario 1998

Masochism: Coldness and Cruelty, Venus in Furs.  Deleuze Gilles & Sacher-Masoch, Leopold von.  Zone Books, New York, NY 1991

Pain and Passion: A Psychoanalyst Explores the World of S&M.  Stoller, Robert. Plenum Press, New York, NY 1991

Private Theatre: Personal Observations and Revelations of a Dominatrix.  Mistress J. Domina Books, Kew Victoria, Australia 2002

Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture.  Queen, Carol. Cleis Press, Pittsburgh, PA 1997

Sex Tips and Tales from Women Who Dare: Exploring the Exotic Erotic.  Baker, Jo-Anne. Hunter House, Alameda, CA 2001

‘You Beat People Up For a Living, Don’t You, Mummy?”: Inside The World of the Dominatrix.  Turner, Roy ed. Absolute Elsewhere, Brighton, UK 2001

SM/Sex, and Spirituality

Ancient Lovemaking Secrets: The Journey Toward Immortality.  McNeil, James W.  L9H Publications 1998

From Sex to Superconsciousness.  Osho. Full Circle, New Delhi, India 2003

The Love Cure: Therapy Erotic and Sexual.  Haule, John Ryan. Spring Publications, Woodstock, CT 1996

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: How Any Man Can Experience Multiple Orgasms and Dramatically Enhance His Sexual Relationship.  Chia, Mantak & Abrams, Douglas. HarperCollins, San Francisco, CA 1996

Radical Ecstasy.  Easton, Dossie & Hardy, Janet W. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004

Sexual Reflexology: Activating the Taoist Points of Love.  Chia, Mantak & Wei, William U. Destiny Books, Rochester, VT 2003

Tantric Yoga: The Royal Path to Raising Kundalini Power.  Frost, Gavin and Yvonne. Samuel Weiser, York Beach, ME1989

Gender and Sexuality

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out.  Hutchins, Loraine & Kaahumanu, Lani ed.  Alyson Publications, Boston, MA 1991

Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and The Rest of Us. Bornstein, Kate. First Vintage Books, New York, NY 1994

Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Sexual Binary.  Nestle, Joan, & Howell, Clare & Wilchins, Riki eds. Alyson Publications, Los Angeles, CA 2002

The Lazy Crossdresser.  Anders, Charles.  Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2002

Miss Vera’s Cross-Dress for Success.  Vera, Veronica. Random House, Toronto 2002

Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls.  Vera, Veronica. Doubleday Main Street Books, New York, NY 1997

Susie Sexperts Lesbian Sex World.  Bright, Susie.  Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1994

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Everybody’s Talking About Polly!

I love a good memoir, and personally, I have been trying to piece one together off and on for years. Well, some sex culture revolutionaries manage to get past the “someday” and into the “somehow”. Polly Superstar has done just that. Her memoir is not just good, it’s great! It actually started as a manual on how to throw a Kinky Salon party and turned into stories and self reflections on her contributions to San Francisco and the larger history of sexual revolutionary culture. I recently had a chance to sit and talk with Polly about herself, the book, and some of her visions for the future. Be sure to watch all three!

Meet Polly!

Polly’s Book

Polly’s Vision

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