BDSM and Kink education blog by Mistress Eve Minax

Five Sexy Kinky Gift Ideas!

Who doesn’t love a sexy gift? Whatever the reason, be it holiday, birthday, or just because, sexy gifts can bring laughter, joy, pleasure, intimacy, knowledge and power. And what’s more sexy than power? Ideas!

People often ask me what my favorite sexy gifts are,-  and I have many many options at my disposal. As I was pulling together my kinky gift list for a friend this year, I realized it has become much more comprehensive over time From a range of prices to areas of interest, (within sexy), there are lost of options. Keep this list handy, feel free to share. I trust you’ll find the appropriate gift for your loved one(s).

Oh, and by the way, some of these links will pay me back, so you’ll be gifting me as well!

1. Gift Books and Games

Sex Cards

It is possible to talk about sex the way foodies talk about food, with great detail and delight? Anyone can learn to be more comfortable on this terrain, it just takes practice. Part of the mission for these cards is to provide a fun way to talk about sex, not only between lovers, but between friends and groups of friends too. We are sexual beings all the time, whether or not we have a partner(s) at any given time. Have fun and be curious!

https://www.sexquestioncards.com/?fbclid=IwAR23gz1H9DncBK6CueDDwjBoLWFAjdpAFcgD6ocrRPtIz-hd-z9-B6-vr0s

 

Bondassage Book

Jaeleen Bennis created this sexy sequence for lovers and I helped her write the book. In it you’ll learn basic massage and bondage techniques, with tons of information on sensory play. There are lots of practice exercises also!

2. Gift Toys

Injoyus

My favorite strap-on “less” toy. So comfy! You attach one of the insertables in you and the more dildo shaped piece acts for the receiver’s pleasure. In a word, once in place, the wearer/giver can squat, walk, lie, even dance and the Injoyus will not fall out. Honestly, having mutual sexual pleasure with your partner from the inside out is quite like nothing else available to us on earth, only fantasies! https://newlovecreations.com/

I love mine so much I’ve named her Francis. Yep, our relationship is that special, and if you would like to own one go HERE and be sure to put in EVE1 for 10% off.  It’s 100 per cent fully refundable too. Here’s to a world where the Injoyus becomes a widely used pleasure device within the expansive world of sex and exploration!

For a more in depth review, go here…

 

If you want to create a combo pleasure gift of two pieces, here are two of my favorites:

The Betty Dodson Vaginal Barbell combined with the Hitachi Magic Wand https://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/GV13516/magic-wand/magic-wand-rechargeable are the BEST!

Although the barbell says “vaginal”, it actually works amazingly well on the prostate and anally for women also. Easy to clean, sterilizable, lasts for life, it’s worth every cent and then some too.
Pair it with the Hitachi Magic Wand for buzz, buzz and you’re set for life for around $200!

OR if you are maybe a bit more greedy, my absolute favorite girthy and lengthy toy is the

Eleven  made by N’Joy Toys

Eleven inches long and weighing over just over 2lbs….you’ll feel it and it doubles as a workout toy!

https://www.goodvibes.com/s/sex-toys/p/1-3-BF-0801/njoy/eleven-stainless-steel-dildo-?lref=Srch|njoy%2Beleven|a|1|c|0|-relevance|search_page|0

My other favorite insertable The Ass Hammer is just as versatile as the Eleven, but oh, so much lighter in weight. Once in, it stays in beautifully!

https://www.mr-s-leather.com/ass-hammer-large-stainless-steel/?acc=eveminax

3. Choose Your Own Gift! Perhaps my suggestions are not quite what you’re looking for? Then go to one of these sites for your pleasure…gift cards available also:)

toys, toys, and lingerie!

Good Vibrations  http://www.goodvibes.com/main.jhtml?kbid=214489

Gears, Toys, Latex, more…

Stockroom http://www.stockroom.com/home.aspx?ref=1885813

Gears, Toys, Furniture, more…

Mr S https://www.mr-s-leather.com/?acc=eveminax

 

4. Porn Gifts

Maybe a little streaming time for you and/or your partner?

I’ve been making my own videos for years, Mistress Minax FemDomme porn delights!

http://www.clips4sale.com/studio/15436

Or you may not know I did a great series with Pink and White Productions?

http://www.pinklabel.tv/on-demand/studio/point-of-contact-minax/?affiliate=2452008

Perhaps rubber and crossdressing works for you? Works for me! I love the shoots I’ve done with Alice In Bondageland.  You will too!

http://www.aliceinbondageland.com/?ref=2461044

5. Educational Gifts

Streaming:

Education you say? Learn from Me and Many Many Others anytime anywhere!

Kink Academy

http://refer.ccbill.com/cgi-bin/clicks.cgi?CA=942299-0000&PA=2460509&HTML=http://www.kinkacademy.com/

Study with Me Live in the Flesh!

One on one for Dominatrix Training

http://www.mistressminax.com/dominatrix-training/

Bondassage Training

http://www.mistressminax.com/bondassage-training/ Training

Group Study

Want to Become a More Confident Skillful Dominant? Or Maybe You and/or Your Partner Want More Depth to Their Dominance? Erotic Dominance Intensive with Me and Cléo Dubois, sixteen years and counting. Next one in February but selling out. Enroll now!

  http://www.sm-arts.com

Whatever your propensities, any of the above are sure to please. I hope these options have opened your mind and piqued your  curiosity!

 

Want To Learn To Be A Dominatrix?

I love teaching, especially the up and coming Dominatrix. Whether you come from such fields of sex works as Full Body Sensual Massage, Bondage Modeling, Exotic Dancing/Stripping, Escort, GFE, you get the value of the work.

Do you need to deepen and expand your skills, (energy, corporal, client relations, etc), gain more camaraderie, (peers and like minded colleagues from all over the world), & develop better business practices (legalities, business licensing, marketing) etc?

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Peg Your Heart Out and Feel it Too!

Walking into the lobby of Catalystcon West 2014, I wondered what my purpose was being there. Sure, I had a panel wherein we would discuss the complications around private vs public in the sex lives of industry people, but surely there was more. Within a half an hour of being in the lobby, I was introduced to the Injoyus, an incredible harnessless pegging device. As a 20 plus year player of strap on, pegging, harness and dildo play, I had never found an “ultimate solution”.
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How Have Sexual Fetishes Changed Over Time?

I was recently asked this question and here’s the synopsis of my take…happy to have your input!

First of all, it is important to establish what one means by “fetish”. Originally, 17c, a fetish/fetiche was an amulet or charm that bore the wearer some form of luck, or at least warded off evil spirits. At the turn of the 20th c and the advent of psychology, notably Freud, fetish, as sexual fetish, became known as an object required to create sexual gratification, ie, shoe, boot, fur, etc. Around the same time, Sado-Masochism also evolved as a term (based on the writings of the Marquis de Sade and Sacher Von Masoch), defined as sexual gratification through corporal punishment (flogging, spanking, etc) or erotic humiliation, (embarrassment, objectification, degradation). As of late, say the past 15 to 20 years, the term fetish is most often used as a “turn on”. Such as, “I have a spanking fetish”, or “I have a rubber fetish”. The current speaker rarely requires the object or activity to achieve orgasm, but does find it more pleasurable with said piece.
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No Pain, No Gain? Understanding Erotic and Non-Erotic Pain

Today I went to see my Physical Therapist for a Rotator Cuff injury rehab session. After we spent some time getting acquainted and starting the exercises, he asked me “what are your thoughts on pain?” and well, you know me, I just had to respond with, “oh, I have LOTS of thoughts on pain! First I think there’s a strong mind body connection and that pain can teach us lot about how we accept extreme sensation. I think that certain types of extreme sensation, aka pain, [notice how I started schooling the PT on my lingo?], can announce danger but also teach us how to relax around the sensation to accept the circumstance. I personally notice that as a strong self sufficient woman who starting working at the age of 14 and does not have a well resourced family or partner to fall back on, I start to feel urgency and impatience around healing as I psychologically fear I will never be able to work again, make money, or take care of myself. It’s brutal and self defeating, and yet it’s part of the process of “sitting with the pain”. I have so much more to say, oh wait, I’m sorry, is that too much?” He paused for a moment, concentrating on stretching my wrist, and then looked at me and smiled saying, “um, most people just say how they don’t like pain. Clearly you’ve thought about this”.   Read more

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Fairy Tales Can Come True

This piece was written a couple of years ago, and I have had the fortune to continue this work. So grateful. May it bring you a piece of hope and enlightenment.

 

Fairy Tales Can Come True!

Imagine you have a secret, a secret of a sexual nature….it might not be a “big” secret. Perhaps you share it with a few close friends, maybe you’ve even facebooked or tweeted about it, or simply alluded to it in your posts. Maybe you have only shared it with your partner, who, quite frankly doesn’t want to hear about it any more, if they ever did. Maybe you keep the secret to yourself, but you fantasize about it and any chance you get you look for it, on the web, or live.

What might that secret be?
What might it look like?
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Five Books for Kink/Poly Beginners

I was just responding to a follow up email from a wonderful couple who started working with me last week and I wanted to give them a few options on reading material for their newfound kink and potential polyamory. It seemed logical to share them with you also!

These five have ranked in my “go to” and return to books that discuss kink and/or polyamory.

~Come Hither

Brame

~Screw The Roses, Send Me the Thorns

Devon and Miller

~The Ethical Slut

Easton and Hardy

~ Consensual Sadomasochism

Henkin and Holiday

~Opening Up

Taormino

Although I LOVE all of them,  I would certainly appreciate having additional options for POC, People with Different Abilities, Senior/Mature sex especially in regards to Kink/BDSM.

What are your thoughts?

In Love and Kink,

Eve

Addendum: many folks have pointed out to me that The Bondassage book, written by me and Jaeleen Bennis is a great beginner tool to take it from sensual to kinky, and that I am remiss in not mentioning it. Call it my Midwest modesty, but it seemed to forward to put it in, apologies!

Professional Dominants (and others’) BDSM Resource List

In preparing for my presentation today“If I Knew Then What I Know Now:
50 Things Every Up and Coming Professional Should Know!” at DomConLA, I realized I have an INCREDIBLE amount of information and resources I have been compiling over the years! As it continued to grow, I realized some links were down and there are many more resources out there. So for now, I am going to compile this as a blog post and I ask for your help in making it more comprehensive. Also, although this compilation is primarily Professional related, I also want to create a more comprehensive directory for everyone. So, please read through, find some new ways of educating yourself around BDSM and Kink, and be sure to comment with more possibilities, (queers, furries, chastity folk etc – you know who you are!!!).

 

xo Eve
Professional Dominant and BDSM/Kink Education

In Person Live Training:

Me! I offer in person, long distance, individual and group classes
Eve Minax
Mistress Minax
Annual Professional Dominant Intensives/Erotic Dominance Intensive for Men and Women
Cleo Dubois Academy of SM-Arts
Rope Dojo and Forte Femme

Bondassage Professional Training Program

Tantric Based SM: Urban Tantra Professionals Training and Coaching

POC Specific:

Women of Color Sexual Health Network

POC BDSM info

Business Coaching

Conferences all over the US, but the “go to” for Professionals is DomCon LA and Atlanta

A few other favorite conferences, not necessarily for the professional:

A wonderful small gathering on the East Coast Camp Crucible
Portland Kinksters seem to “get it” KinkFest
One of the most revered of all BDSM conferences Thunder in the Mountains
Stellar conferences and classes all over the US Dark Odyssey

Online Training and Education

Kink Academy
Kink University

Professional Dominants Community Resources

The Scene: DomBoss

Max Fisch – The Hang

All Star Dommes

Fetlife (with groups for professionals)

Professional Dominants Marketing Resources

Backpage

Pandemos Mistress Directory

DDI (Domme Directory International) Magazine and Directory

Eros Guide

Other World Kingdom

Legal Resources and Activism

Recent legal article on California laws:

Actual California prostitution laws (dry):

SWOP (Sex Workers Outrech Project) USA:

Sex Workers Activists and Allies

Bound Not Gagged (blog covering legal, cultural and political issues around sex work):

Sex In The Public Square (pro- sex work, sex positive activism blog)

Desiree Alliance (Sex worker advocacy and support):

International focus on sex work and activism:

Woodhull Sexual Freedom Alliance

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom

Kink Aware Professionals: Resources of all sorts, primarily therapists

Triple x law

ACLU American Civil Liberties Union

Equipment/Toys/Gear

Stockroom Los Angeles Store and online

Mr. S Leather

Fort Troff – best toys and prices Online

 

Clothing

Beautiful Custom Corsetry, San Francisco

Superb Custom Corsetry Los Angeles, CA

Fun semi custom latex clothes, UK (online)

Lust Designs custom latex clothing SF, CA

Recommended Reading List

“How to” Books

The Bottoming Book or How to Get Terrible Things Done to You by Wonderful People.  Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995

The Bride Wore Black Leather … and he looked fabulous: an etiquette guide for the rest of us. Campbell, Andrew. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000.

A Charm School for Sissy Maids.  Lorelei, Mistress. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex. Brame, Gloria G, Fireside, New York, NY 2000

Consensual Sadomasochism: How to Talk About It & How to Do It Safely,  Henkin, William A. & Holiday, Sybil. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1996

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities. Easton, Dossie & Liszt, Catherine A., Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1997, reissue 2013

Dr. Sprinkle’s Spectacular Sex: Make Over Your Love Life with One of the World’s Great Sex Experts. Sprinkle, Annie. Tarcher/Penguin, New York, NY 2005

Family Jewels: a guide to male genital play and torture.  Haberman, Hardy. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

Flogging.  Bean, Joseph W, Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000

Intimate Invasions: The Erotic Ins & Outs of Enema Play.  Strict, M. R, Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004

Jay Wiseman’s Erotic Bondage Handbook.  Wiseman, Jay. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2000

Juice: Electricity for Pleasure and Pain.  ‘Uncle Abdul’.  Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

KinkyCrafts: 99 Do-It-Yourself S/M Toys for the Kinky Handyperson. Green, Lady ed. with Easton, James. Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

The Knot Book.  Budworth, Geoffrey. Sterling, New York, NY 1985

Leather and Latex Care.  Thibault, Kelly J.  Daedulus, San Francisco, CA 1996

Leathersex: A Guide for the Curious Outsider and the Serious Player.  Bean, Joseph W. Daedalus, San Francisco, CA 1994

Look Into My Eyes: How to Use Hypnosis to Bring Out the Best in Your Sex Life.  Masters, Peter. Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

On The Safe Edge: A Manual for SM Play.  Jacques, Trevor. WholeSM Publishing, Toronto 1993

Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun.  Warren, John. Diversified Services, Brighton, MA 1995

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: the Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism.  Miller, Philip & Devon, Molly. Mystic Rose Books, Fairfield, CT 1999

The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage.  Midori.  Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2001

The Topping Book or Getting Good at Being Bad.  Easton, Dossie & Lizst, Catherine A, Greenery Press, San Francisco, CA 1995

The Toybag Guide to:
Canes and Caning.  Hardy, Janet W.
Clips and Clamps.  Rinella, Jack
Dungeon Emergencies and Supplies.  Wiseman, Jay
Foot and Shoe Worship.  Midori
Hot Wax and Temperature Play Spectrum
Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004
Trust: The Handbook, A Guide to the Sensual and Spiritual Art of Handballing.  Herrman, Bert. Alamo Square Press, San Francisco CA 1991

Training with Miss Abernathy: a workbook for erotic slaves and their owners.  Abernathy, Christina. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 1998

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women.  Taormino, Tristan.  Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1998

Whips and Whipmaking. Morgan, David W. Cornell Maritime Press, Centreville, Maryland 1972, 2004

Woof! Perspectives Into the Erotic Care & Training of the Human Dog.  Daniels, Michael. A Boner Book, The Nazca Plains Corporation, Las Vegas, NV 2003

Memoirs/Non-Fiction

Bizarre Sex and Other Crimes of Passion.  Tal, Stan ed. Masquerade Books, New York, NY 1998

A Defense of Masochism.  Phillips, Anita. Faber and Faber, London, UK 1998

Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex.  Gates, Katharine. Juno Books, New York, NY 2000

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance & Submission.  Brame, Gloria G. & William D. & Jacobs, Jon. Villard, New York, NY 1993

Dominatrix: A Memoir, The Making of Mistress Chloe.  Mansfield, Claire & Mendelssohn, John. Headline, London, UK 2002

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment.  Morin, Jack. HarperCollins, New York, NY 1996

Erotic Power: An Exploration of Dominance and Submission. Scott, Gini Graham, Citadel Press, Toronto, Ontario 1998

Masochism: Coldness and Cruelty, Venus in Furs.  Deleuze Gilles & Sacher-Masoch, Leopold von.  Zone Books, New York, NY 1991

Pain and Passion: A Psychoanalyst Explores the World of S&M.  Stoller, Robert. Plenum Press, New York, NY 1991

Private Theatre: Personal Observations and Revelations of a Dominatrix.  Mistress J. Domina Books, Kew Victoria, Australia 2002

Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture.  Queen, Carol. Cleis Press, Pittsburgh, PA 1997

Sex Tips and Tales from Women Who Dare: Exploring the Exotic Erotic.  Baker, Jo-Anne. Hunter House, Alameda, CA 2001

‘You Beat People Up For a Living, Don’t You, Mummy?”: Inside The World of the Dominatrix.  Turner, Roy ed. Absolute Elsewhere, Brighton, UK 2001

SM/Sex, and Spirituality

Ancient Lovemaking Secrets: The Journey Toward Immortality.  McNeil, James W.  L9H Publications 1998

From Sex to Superconsciousness.  Osho. Full Circle, New Delhi, India 2003

The Love Cure: Therapy Erotic and Sexual.  Haule, John Ryan. Spring Publications, Woodstock, CT 1996

The Multi-Orgasmic Man: How Any Man Can Experience Multiple Orgasms and Dramatically Enhance His Sexual Relationship.  Chia, Mantak & Abrams, Douglas. HarperCollins, San Francisco, CA 1996

Radical Ecstasy.  Easton, Dossie & Hardy, Janet W. Greenery Press, Oakland, CA 2004

Sexual Reflexology: Activating the Taoist Points of Love.  Chia, Mantak & Wei, William U. Destiny Books, Rochester, VT 2003

Tantric Yoga: The Royal Path to Raising Kundalini Power.  Frost, Gavin and Yvonne. Samuel Weiser, York Beach, ME1989

Gender and Sexuality

Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out.  Hutchins, Loraine & Kaahumanu, Lani ed.  Alyson Publications, Boston, MA 1991

Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and The Rest of Us. Bornstein, Kate. First Vintage Books, New York, NY 1994

Genderqueer: Voices from Beyond the Sexual Binary.  Nestle, Joan, & Howell, Clare & Wilchins, Riki eds. Alyson Publications, Los Angeles, CA 2002

The Lazy Crossdresser.  Anders, Charles.  Greenery Press, Emeryville, CA 2002

Miss Vera’s Cross-Dress for Success.  Vera, Veronica. Random House, Toronto 2002

Miss Vera’s Finishing School for Boys Who Want to Be Girls.  Vera, Veronica. Doubleday Main Street Books, New York, NY 1997

Susie Sexperts Lesbian Sex World.  Bright, Susie.  Cleis Press, San Francisco, CA 1994

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Everybody’s Talking About Polly!

I love a good memoir, and personally, I have been trying to piece one together off and on for years. Well, some sex culture revolutionaries manage to get past the “someday” and into the “somehow”. Polly Superstar has done just that. Her memoir is not just good, it’s great! It actually started as a manual on how to throw a Kinky Salon party and turned into stories and self reflections on her contributions to San Francisco and the larger history of sexual revolutionary culture. I recently had a chance to sit and talk with Polly about herself, the book, and some of her visions for the future. Be sure to watch all three!

Meet Polly!

Polly’s Book

Polly’s Vision

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The comedian Margaret Cho called it “Raw, untamed, emotional beauty–Polly is a true supernova. This memoir is as touching as it is hot, as moving as it is a masterpiece.”

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Kinky Curiosity: Finding A Perfect Provider 

Recently, I’ve received several queries from folks interested in Escorts who provide kinky services. In fact, with the film production of “fifty shades of gray” to be released in February, we will probably see more possibilities to not only discuss kink more openly, but probably also see more Escorts offering BDSM services.

I know some people feel as though it’s already controversial to discuss escorting in the United States, and further, it’s even more controversial to, (gasp), place escorts in the same category as Dominatrices, but I say that any escorts who enjoy and practice kink activities, at the very least, could be considered Kink Providers. Examples of distinctions between these job titles exist all over the world, especially in areas where sex work, if not overtly legal, is at least, more generally accepted. As you can see from this page for example, prostitution is legal in half of the world. Oddly, it claims the US as being “limited legally” which gave me a chuckle since clearly we are barely even there.

In any case, in Australia and France where I lived for awhile, being able to find a good professional was as simple as contacting an appropriate service to assist you in your career choice. I’m not sure how things are these days, but a quick internet search brings up a cute site called Escorts and Babes Out of Oz that offers a wide array of choices all over the continent. In France, I did not find much BDSM and escort combined, but was able to find several directories quite easily. Generally, I got Fetishgirls.com  which seems to have a lot of serious play. Locally to SF my top hit was Slixa, which has other locations and a BDSM “Verification” process for their kink providers, which can assure a bit more authenticity sometimes.

Of course, there are lots of options out there and choosing a professional is not as straight forward as it may seem. Building skills to find an appropriate match is imperative. Here are a few suggestions to finding a well suited kink provider:

Know What you Want: Or even what you don’t want! Starting with three basics that you want and one thing for sure you don’t want is great, but what if even that approach is too daunting? Look at images on websites. What compels you to make contact in the first place? Did you like the look of the lingerie, and if so, do you imagine it on you or the provider? What kind of porn do you watch? What do you imagine when you masturbate? What definitely is a “boner kill” for you? Do you imagine yourself on top, bottom, or both? Finding honesty with your provider so that you can fully engage in what turns you on will build trust and safety so you can have fun. They can tell you politely whether your interests are on par with their own. Trust them!

Ask Questions Not an interrogation, but like any other professional, you are engaging in possibilities of working together. Be sure to ask the important questions around interests, skill level, if equipment is being use, what quality? and what standards of cleanliness and skill level do they have? Working professionals with ethical views will not be insulted by such queries. They will see you as an informed client who cares, and that is someone we all want to work with!

Take Your Time If you are new to all of this, try not to rush out and grab the first person who looks good to you. Think about your reasons for seeking a provider. Is it for the experience?Is it for excitement? Are you seeking long term exploration? Do you seek a surrogate until you are ready to date again? Different providers specialize appropriately. Take the time to get yourself acquainted with the field and with yourself. Of course, taking the time to seek counsel can be quite instrumental these days. Like matchmaking services, Kink Coaches can help you find the perfect professional for hands on play. Once again, a quick search pulled up a full first page from the US, the UK, and Australia right away!

On a final note, remember that sex is not only a form of recreation, it’s the foundation to life, and an excellent tool for self discovery. Whatever your path be at the moment, be good to yourself and those around you. Self care comes in many packages. When you take care of your sexual health, you will be a happier person and a sexier person too.